Safety Tips
Before you meet
- Take your time. There is no rush. Chat in the app and thoroughly vet their profile before meeting in person. Anyone pushing you to meet immediately is not respecting your pace.
- Tell someone. A friend or family member should know who you're meeting, where, and when. Share your live location through your phone's built-in feature.
- Don't share private info too early. Avoid giving out your home address, workplace, financial details, or daily schedule until you've built real trust.
Meeting up for the first time
- Public place, daylight. A busy café, restaurant, or park. Avoid private homes, isolated locations, or anywhere you can't easily leave.
- Get yourself there and back. Don't accept a ride from someone you've just met. Have your own way home — even if the date goes well.
- Stay sober enough to think clearly. If you choose to drink, do it slowly. Watch your drink being poured. Never leave a drink unattended.
- Keep your phone charged. You should be able to call someone, summon a ride, or share your location at any moment.
- Trust your instincts. If something feels off — anything at all — leave. You don't owe anyone politeness, an explanation, or a goodbye. Your gut is rarely wrong.
Red flags — leave or block immediately
- Asking for money. Loans, gift cards, crypto, "emergency" wires, investment opportunities, "I'm stuck overseas" stories. Always a scam. Never send money to someone you met online.
- Pushing to move off the app. Especially within the first few messages. Romance scammers do this to escape moderation.
- Pressure for explicit photos. Particularly early on. Sextortion is a real and growing threat.
- Refuses to video-call or share recent photos. Or insists on poor-quality video calls only.
- Inconsistent stories. Job, location, age, marital status that change between conversations.
- Love-bombing. Intense affection, "you're my soulmate," talk of marriage — within days of matching.
- Aggressive reactions to boundaries. If declining a request causes anger or guilt-tripping, that's a preview of the relationship.
- Sketchy links or attachments. Don't click links sent in chat unless you've verified the source. Phishing is common.
Sexual consent
Consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing, and freely given. It can be withdrawn at any moment. Intoxication, pressure, or being asleep means there is no consent. This is true regardless of how the date started, what you wore, or what was implied.
Block and report
Tap the menu (⋯) on any conversation to block or report someone. Both actions are silent — the other user is not notified. Reports are reviewed within 24 hours. Confirmed violations result in account removal.
You should report anyone who:
- Sends harassing, threatening, or hateful messages
- Sends unsolicited sexual content
- Appears to be under 18, or asks if you are
- Asks for money, gift cards, or financial information
- Has a fake profile (stolen photos, false identity)
- Pressures you to meet, share intimate content, or move off-app
If something happens
Immediate danger: Call your local emergency number. In the US: 911.
Sexual assault (US): RAINN — 1-800-656-HOPE — rainn.org. Free, confidential, 24/7.
Mental health crisis (US): 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988.
Domestic violence (US): National DV Hotline — 1-800-799-7233 — thehotline.org.
Romance scams / online fraud (US): Report to the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center — ic3.gov — and the FTC at reportfraud.ftc.gov.
Outside the US: Search "[your country] dating safety hotline" or contact your local police non-emergency line.
How Kismet works to keep you safer
- Phone-verified accounts. Every user must verify a real phone number to sign up.
- 18+ only. Date-of-birth verification is required at signup. Anyone reported as underage is removed immediately.
- No location sharing. We use location only to detect proximity for matching. We never reveal another user's location to you, and we never reveal yours to them.
- Mutual matches only. You can only message someone after both AI agents have determined a real connection — and even then, the conversation begins through guided prompts, not free chat.
- Block and report on every conversation. One tap. Always available.
Safety is a shared responsibility. We will keep building tools that protect you; you bring your judgment, your gut, and the friend you tell about every first date.